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Shift Happens

Have you felt the energy from the recent solar eclipse? Feeling kinda out of sorts but not sure why?

Solar eclipses create incredible changes to the energy patterns and levels of the Universe apparently, and a lot of people can pick up on this change.

I have been out of sorts most of the week – weird, off centred emotions, wishing I could just hide away, feeling like there is change coming but I am not sure I want anything to alter.

But this morning, I awoke re-energised. Feeling more centres, more alive, and weirdly more balanced. Like I am different, but I am also okay with that now. I feel almost cleansed of everything that has happened in the past, all the hurts I have had, all the hurts I have created – all that – gone. Lifted.

The energies have definitely shifted..

There is no limiting beliefs to hold on to anymore, those old wounds have healed and my focus is definitely forward… new energy, here I come.

I feel like the eclipse has cleared it all for us. It all feels fresh, and new, and higher vibe. Do you sense that as well?

I feel like we are all at a new beginning, a new start – one that will be super successful for us all if we choose to leave all the baggage behind.

We are all in a regeneration phase, it feels, one where we can start afresh, totally unencumbered by the past. We have ahead of us, opportunity, optimism, enthusiasm, if we so choose it.

The way forward is now clear, take all you have learned in the last 20 odd years and leap forward with confidence. The past does not dictate your future any more. No more using past hurts as an excuse to shield yourself from the future.

Step Up. Step Into Who You Really Were Meant To Be.

Practise more self care, gratitude, love every single bit of your skin, live with mindfulness and practise thoughtfulness and kindness every day.

It’s time to jump into all those things you’ve always wanted to do – get excited about life – learn more about whatever you’re interested in – it’s your time. NOW.

What will you do? What are the things that light you up? What makes you feel alive?

DO THAT!

 

 

Life – Write Now..

How many of you are journalers? Regularly?

Like every day regularly, not just when you have to for part of a 5 Day Challenge?

Let me tell you, you really should be.

Journalling has been attributed with many mental benefits, such as mindfulness, such as goal setting in order to find daily focus, and apparently even boosts brain power.

All I know is that finding 30 minutes each morning is an amazing way to bring calm to your life, focus to your thoughts and strength to your self discipline.

What if that was all it took to make your life different?

Creating a daily habit of intentional writing about life, your life, where you wish to go today, your dreams and hopes for the future, your ability to ask for help, your pre req for healthy healing, your outlet for negative thoughts – what if these things really could transform your life?

They can.

You don’t even have to have a set plan, you can write whatever comes into your head – you can ask yourself a pressing question and wait for the answer to come from within, you can follow a set of prompts if you wish. This is your journal time and a time to express yourself in whichever way you wish. Imagine the self confidence you could build, imagine the creativity that will flow from you, the clarity to your thoughts.

Making time to journal every day is a gift of self love, an opportunity to connect with your heart daily, and ask yourself the questions that matter to you.

Why not give it a whirl. Today. Because I am convinced that life is “write” now. 🙂

 

Personal Satisfaction is all that matters..

Morning Monday.

Where have I been of late?

Well aside from physically being overseas on holidays, I have also been missing emotionally. I haven’t posted here for ages and I don’t know why, to be honest.

It appears I have been lost in a swamp of same same, falling down the vortex of forever learning the next “big thing” when all I really want to do is motivate people with my writing.

That’s it. I just wanna help people feel better about themselves.

Some may call it small time thinking, some may say I am leaving money on the table, and as a business coach, I am well aware of that fact, but does the whole social media world light me up? Not any more.

I have been feeling disconnected, out of sorts and semi pissed off with my ever increasing To Do List, to create sales funnels, to make opt ins, to have lead magnets and to lure the shoppers in with all kinds of wonderful wizardry.

Bugger all that. It all feels so super icky to me, inauthentic and false.

So, as always, when I feel like the world is crashing in, I head overseas for some perspective. Last week I was in Singapore.

Fun for a week, exhausting but oh so interesting. Expensive to drink, inexpensive and delicious to eat.

But, back to my original thought, personal satisfaction.

Fundamentally I am a writer. I love to express myself through words, through painting a written picture for you to conjure up, to dream of, to think about.

I am not a marketer. I am not a funnel creator. I am a writer who travels, who knows a lot of stuff about a lot of stuff, and who has vast experience of both the highs and the lows of life. I have found myself awakened in midlife, possibly having one of the best times of my life, and if this is a midlife crisis, I am owning it.

Having the beauty of being able to blame any rash decision now on menopause, I am here today to tell you – that I am returning to writing, to laughing, to being who I am and making no apologies for it. I am forgoing the sales techniques, and the tactics that make others so much money, and give me a headache, for this, personal satisfaction.

This week I am commencing a huge rebrand, not only of the website, but of myself. Who am I when I am the happiest? Who am I when no one is looking? Who am I when I want to serve others, and what are the strengths I have been given that allow me to do so?

What do I even want my new midlife life to look like? So far in life, I have been able to manifest absolutely every single thing I have ever wanted… so what is it that I want now?

Hmmm, personal satisfaction.

I wanna wake up every morning and feel alive, and well, and happy. I want to serve others by motivating them to make more of their lives, to bring the joy back to their worlds, and understand that the future is theirs to create. I want to look out at this beautiful ocean and see children playing, whales breaching and yachts passing my window every day.

I want to feel deep happiness. I want to feel connected, loved, listened to.

I want to do everyday, things that make me happy. Like writing. Like laughing. Like making a difference in the lives of my community.

Like this.

What brings you personal satisfaction? Do you also feel that yours is becoming more important than all the “must do’s, according to society or colleagues”?

Where are you at in your life, right now? Do you feel the pull of your “truth” as well?

I’d love to know more… Drop by on Facebook and tell me how you are feeling.

 

How to Die Happy..

Recently I have met a wonderful lady out here on the island, who has written a book called How to Die Happy.

The title intrigued me as I have been searching a little lately for a topic for another Connecting Maggie Workshop.

The book is wonderful, it’s a practical guide that will keep all our information in one place, in order to help those who care for us, fulfill our wishes when we are gone. Check it out here.. 

The title has had me thinking – what would be the emotional things we could do in life in order for us to die happy?

  • Make a Bucket List and tick them off – starting right now?
  • Take the opportunity to say NO more often?
  • Surround ourselves with people who only make us feel great?
  • Listen to our gut instincts more?
  • Sleep well, eat well, get plenty of fresh air and a healthy dose of sunshine daily?
  • Use all the things we are saving for “good”
  • Seek more adventure, travel, laugh, learn about other cultures, see the world?

How come we wait until we are dying in order to start living?

Let’s change that right now.

Do ONE thing today that makes you feel alive. Stretch that comfort zone as far as you can.

Because I am The Midlife Motivator and I am here to ruffle your feathers, bring the fun back to your life, and help you understand that life really is about making yourself happy.

Till next time, remember the Universe Loves You. JQ xx

Midlife Crisis – Who ME?

Funnily enough, when I was in my 20’s and 30’s, I would hear about people reaching midlife and having what we all called a “crisis” – where they would make a dramatic change to their world, buy a motorbike, get a new relationship, leave work, grow a beard, go on a road trip that never seemed to end… and I would be like, I do not understand how someone spend years living a life that they are desperately wanting to escape from..I just did not get it.
At all.

But, as I reached 40, then 50 I somehow woke up. Life had not always been kind to me, and after some super tough challenges, I had finally stumbled on a better life – and a weird theory on how to get everything I wanted.

Initially I asked to be able to find the funds to pay all of my bills, and that happened. I asked for a job that paid 20k more than I was earning, and I got that. I asked for 50k more, yep got that. Eventually I was receiving more than 200 000 a year, I had a phone, a car, a laptop, superannuation paid for every hour that I worked, every single thing I asked for, I received.

After a few years, it started to feel empty, hollow somehow. I was making huge headway into this career, yet it was important to me. Every day I would get up before the sun, travel an hour to work, to be bullied and emotionally battered by men who were old enough to know better. Old men unhappy with their lot in life, and mean to anyone wishing to make a change for the better.

One day I just decided that enough was enough. I took 5 weeks off and went to Paris. Upon my return, my position had been restructured and I was made redundant. I could not have been happier. Again, I had asked for help from the Universe and it had delivered it to me.
At the time I wanted a career where the people were pleasant, where they were receptive to change, where there was laughter and fun and co-operation. In the downturn, jobs were hard to find, so I created myself one. I started offering my experience as a business mentor and life coach for people in the throes of business start up.

And I loved it. It lit me up, helping people achieve their dreams and follow their passion to success was so empowering for me. This is the feeling I was looking for.

Around about this same time, I met a man, gentle, caring, compassionate. Someone intelligent and some who brought to the table a calming influence to the chaos that the kids and I called Family life.

Once again the universe delivered. I asked for a man who would never make me cry, who was kind hearted, generous of spirit and who would love my kids as their own. The Universe went all out on this delivery. This man is perfect, so perfect that I married him. And yes, he does look like George Clooney (if you squint a little, maybe after a glass of wine or two).

The point to that story is, that I too suffered a midlife crisis. A time in my life where I realised that where I was, was not where I wanted to stay – so I changed it.

I went from being a lonely, unsupported, overworked stress head, to a woman who was loved, cared for, supported and I had never been happier in my life. I worked with people that I loved, I was surrounded by happiness and life was wonderful.
180 degree’s polar opposite to what I had been living.

Because my kids were getting older and I was no longer needed in the same, day-to-day way, I found that I truly wanted a different life — a life that was mine — based on what I value and what I loved to do.

I didn’t want to just push down what wasn’t working. I wanted to bring it out and resolve it, or let it go. Do it, or ditch it. Now I get it — a “midlife crisis” isn’t a cliché. It’s real and it’s powerful, and almost everyone has these feelings.

I have since spoken to thousands of women, at my workshops, who’ve awakened in midlife to realizing that what they’ve created in their 20s and 30s just doesn’t fit who they’ve now become.

Midlife truly IS a time of major transition – over the years, I’ve observed that the following experiences contribute to our re-awakening in midlife and wanting change:
1) Time for re-evaluation — Realizing that your life is potentially more than half over is a jarring experience, and brings with it a sense of urgency to live more authentically and more joyfully. At 50, we just want different things than we did at 30. The death of a parent, or of close friends bring this feeling to light in dramatic fashion, and the feeling of it could be us next, starts to hit home.
2) Kids have bolted – leaving their parents at home, with time on their hands. There is more room to think, to ponder the possibilities of life, and even space to allow yourself to dream about a future that’s purely yours.
3) Longings begin to surface – Often we spend years working so hard to craft a “successful” life, and it is midlife when we start to get tired of the race to nowhere. Success starts to mean different things to us – Instead of some outward version of “success,” we long to pursue what gives us joy, excitement, passion, peace — we want to live life more fully, on our terms.
4) We have learned how to speak up – We won’t be talked down to anymore. We’ve lived through that, and we’ve learned how to stand up, speak up and power up. We won’t tolerate put-downs, manipulation or pressure like we used to. We have a voice and we are not afraid of using it.
5) Finally, after all we’ve strived for, accomplished, created and endured, you know what you’re capable of. You start to feel like you have earned this time for yourself. The feeling of not accepting anything less than what you deserve. You finally have the confidence and the courage to embrace the idea that you have been toying with for a very long time. You know that THIS cannot be all there is. You have a longing for more and you’re emotionally ready to help create it.

It seems to me now, that midlife is a natural, perfectly normal life progression that doesn’t have to represent chaos and anxiety, as I once presumed in my early years. If you’re in midlife and wondering why everything looks and feels different, don’t be alarmed. It’s normal. The key is to not resist the changes, embrace them with passion— walk directly into this new life.
Look deep into the chasms of your heart, mind, and soul to find clues of what your passion in, on who you want to become now, and what you want to build in this next supercharged chapter of life. It is time for the fun, for the laughter to come back into your life, time to live with ignited passions and reclaim your power – put away that superhero cape and learn to relax and enjoy yourself instead.

It’s a new time, inviting you to create a new, more expansive you. Do a declutter of your old life, remove any negative influences, change up your Social Media friends, remove any old junk or paperwork from around your home. It’s out with the old, in with the new time! Midlife really can pave the way to an exciting new life. It’s time to breakthrough, if you are brave enough to make the leap.

Why not me?

One of my recent conversations with a friend went something like this….”How come you get all the cool stuff, living on an island and stuff – why not me?”

“I dunno, have you ever asked to live on an island?” I said.

“well, no” she replied..

That’ll do it.

How do you ever expect to get what you ask for if you never ask?

Honestly, it is that simple.

The hardest part in making change is making the decision what you truly wish your life looked like.

My grass may look greener to some, but maybe I just water it.

What you want, wants you.

The trick is ridding yourself of all the blocks you might have that keep you from receiving.

What if all I ever did was ask and that was all it took to set the universal wheels in motion.

What is stopping you from asking? Hmmm, now there is some food for thought..

 

 

 

SHAG’ing is great for the soul…

Well, According to the book I read this morning….

I was feeling a little off this morning, nothing dramatic but just not quite right.

Because I have learned over the years to trust my internal compass, I sat down and asked myself, what it was that I needed to feel better. The answer was sunshine. I thought about it for a moment, and realised that with winter being here, there had been a few days pass since I had got my daily dose of that beautiful winter sun on my face, so off I went to the local marina cafe to read.

It is a book that attempts to outline the Law of Attraction in simple terms, and I had to laugh out loud when I got to the page entitled SHAG, Baby… It certainly got my attention..

SHAG, as it turns out stands for So Happy and Grateful. And the author Sean believes that the creation of one or two detailed lines, outlining your ambitions, written in present tense, beginning with the words “I am so happy and grateful now that…..” is extremely powerful in thrusting your mental image forward into the future, built of your dreams.

Carrying your SHAG statement around and reciting often throughout the day will encourage the seeds of possibility to commence sprouting. Training your mind of deliberately putting yourself in the picture of the future, envisioning yourself at every opportunity. Apparently SHAGing becomes easier with practise.. Who knew? 😉

So, my friends, I give you permission to SHAG morning and night, and more often if possible.

Get into a relaxed state and read out those lines, attract the fulfillment of your desire, visualise your heart’s desire…. and SHAG!

 

Who are you?

Who are you?

Really.

When no one is looking – who are you?

When there is no one to impress or follow or obey, who are you?

What are the things you stand for? What are the things that you are prepared to fight for?

What are the things that light you up? That make you laugh, that make you cry, that make you proud?

That make you, you?

Ever stopped to think about who you really are all that way inside?

When I got married I started thinking about who I really was now that I was no longer Jaki Mac – what were the adjectives that best described Jacqueline Quenault now? Strong, fit, healthy, happy, confident, successful, wealthy. Words like this keep me focussed, keep me on track to who I want to continue to become.

In my mind, Life is a never ending journey to self discovery, I love that every day I have a choice to take a step forward or a step back. A step closer to my adjectives, or a step back toward the safety of the cocoon of comfortable.

Do you use words or mantras to guide your path? Do you ever take time to look within and find yourself? who you really are?

I’d love to know who you discover.

You can’t be happy…

….if you are happy being sad.

“Hold on, wait a second, what do you mean I can’t be happy, if I am happy being sad?

What the heck does that mean? I am NOT happy being sad????”

Or are you?

Do you ever feel that you’re playing a role in life? That you are actually living according to others expectations, rather than how you truly feel?

No one, regardless of your situation, can be unhappy every single moment of every single day. Seriously, it isn’t possible.

Sometimes it isn’t even you that is making you unhappy – imagine living in a sea of negative voices, would you be floating or drowning in that kind of environment?

It is up to us to make ourselves happy – every day, we have a choice. We can wake and be grateful for the things around us, or we can piss and moan about how cold it is, how the birds are singing, how the sunlight wakes us up, or how the life partner you have chosen is still breathing.

Sometimes being unhappy becomes a habit. Some of you have been un happy for so many years, you’ve forgotten what makes you smile.

Today, find 5 minutes to do something that makes you smile – it might be pushing a child on a swing, running on the beach, reading, gardening, sewing, singing – it doesn’t have to cost any money, and it doesn’t have to take much time.

5 Minute Smiles – how can you not find the time for that? Unless, of course, you’re happy being sad.

 

 

 

Lessons from the Rain

Happy birthday to my brother Neville today. He would have been 61.. ha.. so hard to picture him as an old man..

The years pass, the ache lessens but the pain of what could have been never goes away. The guilt, the did i say enough, did I do enough, did I hug and love enough is always with me.

Becauses it’s birthday time for me as well, it’s always been a hard few days, this year I brought myself to the city so i could be surrounded with people, people I know and people I don’t, in an attempt to regain my perspective on the world. We get taught so much from the trials and the pains of life. This year my goal was to see what I should learn from losing him so early.

We wandered into the city and spent the day amidst the shoppers and marchers in wet n windy weather. The rain seemed to reflect my feelings on life yesterday – gloomy and heavy – yet somehow a need in order for growth. Everywhere I went, people talking about how much we NEED the rain. A simple understanding that we need the gloom, in order to blossom – Lesson Number One.

I saw People who drove past me in their Mercedes and laugh while they splashed muddy road water up my legs, and the people who sat in the rain asking for money for food, smiling and giving thanks for the coins dropped in their hat – You Do not need to be a wealthy person to be kindhearted and grateful for your blessings – Lesson Number Two

I saw heartfelt hugs and tears of goodbye at the Railway Station, I saw kids running and Dads catching and squeezing these kids hello at the airport – There is never enough time to hug, love and squeeze your family, Do it anyway. Lesson Number Three.

I also realised that being the love I had for my brother has never diminished, i just haven’t had a way of sharing it with him since 1986 – thankfully I have managed to hatch a whole tribe of people that I get to squeeze tight instead since then. I know now that love is love – its universal, and that the hugs I give one person resonates to another regardless. Lesson Number Four.

And as I sit here this morning, blubbering as has become my June 12 morning ritual since 1986, I finally realise why I do what I do.

Why I share the need for people to understand that life is short and that we need to do what makes us happy, that we need to tell the people around us that we love them, and we need to say it often, that the world runs on love, and that we need to lift the vibration of the world by sharing that love. Why I strive to impart my knowledge of how to change life, how to lift yourself by lifting others… because i have a never ending guilt that maybe I failed this wonderful man all those years ago. Lesson Number Five.

Can you do me a favour today? Stop right now and tell the person that is next to you that you love them. That you care. That the world is better off for them being in it.

Because everyone needs to know that. Everyone needs to hear that. Especially today.

For all of you who knew the man who was my brother, thank you for all that you did for him, for knowing him and loving him, and know that his memory will never fade.