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Life – Write Now..

How many of you are journalers? Regularly?

Like every day regularly, not just when you have to for part of a 5 Day Challenge?

Let me tell you, you really should be.

Journalling has been attributed with many mental benefits, such as mindfulness, such as goal setting in order to find daily focus, and apparently even boosts brain power.

All I know is that finding 30 minutes each morning is an amazing way to bring calm to your life, focus to your thoughts and strength to your self discipline.

What if that was all it took to make your life different?

Creating a daily habit of intentional writing about life, your life, where you wish to go today, your dreams and hopes for the future, your ability to ask for help, your pre req for healthy healing, your outlet for negative thoughts – what if these things really could transform your life?

They can.

You don’t even have to have a set plan, you can write whatever comes into your head – you can ask yourself a pressing question and wait for the answer to come from within, you can follow a set of prompts if you wish. This is your journal time and a time to express yourself in whichever way you wish. Imagine the self confidence you could build, imagine the creativity that will flow from you, the clarity to your thoughts.

Making time to journal every day is a gift of self love, an opportunity to connect with your heart daily, and ask yourself the questions that matter to you.

Why not give it a whirl. Today. Because I am convinced that life is “write” now. 🙂

 

How to Die Happy..

Recently I have met a wonderful lady out here on the island, who has written a book called How to Die Happy.

The title intrigued me as I have been searching a little lately for a topic for another Connecting Maggie Workshop.

The book is wonderful, it’s a practical guide that will keep all our information in one place, in order to help those who care for us, fulfill our wishes when we are gone. Check it out here.. 

The title has had me thinking – what would be the emotional things we could do in life in order for us to die happy?

  • Make a Bucket List and tick them off – starting right now?
  • Take the opportunity to say NO more often?
  • Surround ourselves with people who only make us feel great?
  • Listen to our gut instincts more?
  • Sleep well, eat well, get plenty of fresh air and a healthy dose of sunshine daily?
  • Use all the things we are saving for “good”
  • Seek more adventure, travel, laugh, learn about other cultures, see the world?

How come we wait until we are dying in order to start living?

Let’s change that right now.

Do ONE thing today that makes you feel alive. Stretch that comfort zone as far as you can.

Because I am The Midlife Motivator and I am here to ruffle your feathers, bring the fun back to your life, and help you understand that life really is about making yourself happy.

Till next time, remember the Universe Loves You. JQ xx

Create a better life with words

The words you speak become the life you live.

Sounds so simple hey?

What are your first thoughts when you wake up each morning? Are you a YAY Morning Person, or a OMG Is it Friday Yet Person?

I know that the Universe is always listening – always.

Regardless if you call the Universe God, or Frequency, or the Law of Attraction – to me it’s all the same – but one thing you can be super sure of, it is listening to your words. Every single one. Choose your words wisely.

Are you a “oh but” person – bursting the bubbles of happiness and enthusiasm all over the place?

Are you a “I can’t” person – your first thought when faced with something new?

Do you really hate Mondays? Or is that just a learned thinking from seeing too many Insta memes?

Or are you a “why not”? Or a “hell yeah”?

Today I would love for you to listen super closely to your everyday language – do you ask for more hours in the day, and then get cross when you wake at 5am? Do you say “this cake is going straight to my arse?” and then wonder why those pants are tighter?

If the words you speak are creating your Shopping List for the Future – what’s on it?

Is there words like “I can’t lose weight?” or “I never win anything” or maybe the good ole “no-one would ever want me?” Add in a dash of “banana’s make me fat” and a “I hate exercise”, coupled with a “I have no friends” and “life is always shit, you don’t understand” and bingo – you are all set for a life of permanent misery aren’t you?

Start practising looking for the good before you speak. Ask why this situation is in your life, what is it trying to teach you?

Use positive words. Find things to be grateful for every single day. Focus on the good. Reframe your words and your attitude.

“Damn this cake is tasty” “Thanks universe for waking me early on this beautiful morning”

 

I love this coffee – I love this view – I love my children and husband and grandbabies and every day I give thanks for my lifestyle and friends and all the opportunities I have had to make new ones.

Transforming your life is about making change. And how can you make change if you decide before you start that you can’t.

Stop playing small. You can Transform Your Life.

You can. You will. You are.

It’s that simple.

 

Come join the fun and be the first to experience the Free 5 Day Challenge Coming Soon –

YOU CAN TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE FB Page

So, how do I go about this Transformation thang?

You get my emails, you read my blog posts, you follow me on social media, you know that I spend my whole life teaching people how to transform their lives into something magical.

It’s my passion to show you how to shake things up, how to jump out of the swamp and into the sparkly world of manifesting and living a great life.

I bring back the fun, I open your eyes to opportunity, I help you see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

“Yeah, yeah, enough of the airy, fairy bullshit” I hear you say..

HOW? How do I do this? How do I change my life from one of lack to one of abundance? How do I do this whole revampy thing? Where the heck do I start?

“Begin at the beginning and continue until the end, then stop” as Lewis Carroll so famously once wrote.

Today, over in the YOU CAN TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE FB Group, we talk about starting taking responsibility for your life. We talk about making plans and taking action.

For you today, your first step is to join the group – join the motivation and join the inspiration that lives within its confines. We will soon be running a 5 Day Challenge, and all that info will be within the group.

Wanna change your life? Wanna bring back the excitement and the fun and the energy? Get over there now, we are waiting. You Can Transform YOUR Life. Be there, or be bored.

YOU CAN Transform Your Life.

What if I said to you that you really can transform your life?

Without doubt you can live the life that you have imagined – that your world can be filled with magical moments far removed from the mundane.

I think it’s easy. And I want to show you how.

Have you recently hit Mid Life and feel like your Mojo has disappeared?
Got your hands in the air asking “is this all there is to life?”
Are you wishing for the magic to reappear, to re-find your creativity or inner fire?
Do you feel like you’re missing out all the time? Your newsfeed is full of people travelling, finding success, and sharing fantastic photos – and you’re over here thinking what reality show to watch next?
You are Bored, craving connection and looking for direction.
Are you searching for more, but you’re not sure what of?”

What if I told you that You Can Transform Your Life? Revamp it, remodel it, rekindle the flames and reignite the passion and enthusiasm of youth?

Doesn’t that sound incredible?

Imagine waking every morning excited with the possibility and opportunity that might arise – spending each day finding magic and synchronicity around each corner? Having every day filled with joy and happiness, purpose and passion.

Well you CAN transform your whole life and I would love to show you how.

I will lead you through deciding exactly what you want out of life and the ways to walk right into it.

To find your own brilliance and the courage to step up into it.

To stand tall and proud, impassioned and empowered by positive change.

To learn to ask, and remove your blocks to receiving. To be brave, confident and adventurous once more.

In the new program Magnetic Midlife Magic, I will reveal the Tools for Transformation, show you exactly how to draw the magic and fun into your world, and live the life, you’ve always imagined.

Just picture life as you truly want it. A newly discovered sense of purpose, a sense of inner peace and strength, energy that soars, confident to handle any challenges that may come your way. A total inner knowing that everything happens FOR us, not to us.

All this can be yours. You can transform your life. You deserve to be living the life that you truly design for yourself. Without regret. Without disappointment.

I am in the process of creating this magic as we speak, sprinkling it with moments of genius, with tools to transform, with examples of how making positive change will transform your life.

Yes, Magnetic Midlife Magic is coming – and I am super excited to lead you through your transformation.

This programme is for you if you are open to the possibility that you truly can transform your life and bring positive change, if you are open and ready to clear away your blocks and resistance to change, if you are a mid life women looking for more, and ready to commit to a better life, full of fun and excitement.

Keep your eyes peeled – the winds of change are ‘ablowing…

 

 

So much can change in just 30 days

I don’t need to tell you that life can change in an instant – the birth of a child, the death of a parent – bam, life as you knew it, is over. Change in one moment of time.

Small incremental changes can also add up – and just as water drops wear away the rocks, tiny tweaks here and there can become monumental if you persist.

My moving to Maggie was decided in a moment, and over the last 6 months, my life has changed in so many ways, some imperceivable, some very visible.

The last 30 days I’ve spent hiding in my house, tweaking my diet and my lifestyle in a positive fashion. I’ve started a new diet plan, I’ve changed my exercise routine, I have started to journal regularly and I listen to meditative music most evenings.

The change in my perception of life is palpable. I no longer stress at the weight on the scale, I no longer spend the whole day worrying about what I am going to eat or what I look like in bathers.

I feel empowered. I have made positive change in my life this time, not just the lives of others.

Bam. What a realisation that was!

For years I ate well, i looked after myself, I cared for myself. I made incredible change by changing my mindset, and then i decided to could help others achieve similar results. The more I helped, the less I looked after my own thoughts, and patterns. The more I became energetically entangled with people, the more of their energy I absorbed, and over time I became unsure of myself, worried about what people would think of me.

I retreated and I played small. I took on online coaching, so people couldn’t see me, I stopped doing Facebook Lives and Video Courses, because I was unhappy with how I looked.

Somehow my head had confused my size with my self worth and expertise, the larger I got, the smaller I became.

Until now.

Recently I have had an epiphany. I realised that I am the one in charge. I do have control over my issues, and through trial and error I found a solution that my body was craving for. But, bizarrely, not only has my self confidence started to return, but my online confidence has soared as well.

I am ready to face the world once more.

I feel like I have been a bear in hibernation, waiting for the right time to re-enter the world as we know it.

I am once again brave enough to show my face and my heart and my knowledge to the world. I now know that my procrastination period is over. The feeling sorry for myself is finished.

My time is now. The time to once again step up and into my own brilliance.

I want to teach you how to rediscover your magic, how to shake up your life and rediscover your missing mojo, I want to show you how easy it is to magentise all the wonderful things life has to offer and drag them into your own world.

The time is right, the planets have aligned and all the things I need in life are here. I have a job to so and that is to help you find your way.

I want you help you understand how to plan your perfect life, and how to execute it into reality.

Follow me, if you’re looking for the Ask, Action and Ass Kicking Plan  – watch this space.

 

 

 

I AM – and how it got to be so…

My blogging really came about by accident – I was trying to find info on the net about an upcoming operation I was to undertake, and, unable to locate much, I decided to create one of my own..

It has evolved – greatly, over the years to being a place where I share my motivation, and enthusiasm for life at any age. The content has evolved, the format is different, I started using a new platform – and of course the name change to I AM.

A lot of people ask me about why I chose that name, given that the great Dr Wayne Dyer used it so much (which I wasn’t aware of at the time). So here is the story..

I was given the name in a dream.

Yep, one morning I awoke with an inner knowing that the page would change its name, and its direction and that I would attempt to be the face of motivational midlifer’s.

I was terrified.

What do I know about motivating others?

Why should I feel special enough to be asked to do this?

SO many questions running through my head at the time – but if there is one thing I have learned about this journey, it is the fact that we are never given more than we can deal with.

I am of the belief that we are all given experiences to learn from, to learn resilience and commitment – to then share that gift of learning with the world.

What gift do I have to share though?

Who would find comfort or solace in hearing what I have to say?

Do I even have anything useful to say anyway? Who knows? But I am here. Writing. Published and many unpublished. Read and unread. But I am here.

I write because I like it. I write to share my stories of homelessness and domestic violence and the way that your past will never define your future, unless you let it.

I stand before you all to encourage you to take life by the lapels and truly make a go of it. To leave no regrets, to travel and laugh and love as long as you can.

I write to share my knowledge that life gives you what you ask for, and to teach you about the power behind the words you speak.

I write to tell you that life can be fabulous, it can be heart breaking and that it can be so filled with love and compassion, it will brings tears to your eyes.

I write because I was “asked” to, one night a few year ago, a voice spoke to me and “told” me this is my purpose. That my aim in life is to positively impact over One Million Lives.

How friggen cool is that? AND how utterly frightening is that??

For a long long time, I have been afraid of the enormity of this. How would I even commence to impact One Million Lives? Who do I think I am to undertake such a scheme?

Living here on such a beautiful island, has given me the ability to slow down, look inward and begin to understand the How.

I shall start with One.

If I can make a difference in just one person’s life today, send that tiny ripple of positivity into the world, I will be happy. I will send it out with the intention of it growing, of that one person making a larger ripple, and the circles becoming larger and larger as time goes on.

Not very long ago, my work got copied. I was so rattled by the fact, that I stopped. Stopped sharing, stopped speaking publicly and stopped releasing my online work – but now I see. This is how I can grow my impact. I no longer care if people copy, if they speak my words to their friends or colleagues.

Wayne Dyer was also given a message of empowering people to live up to their I AM. Albeit, his path was different to mine, the underlying message is still the same. We all have the ability to make change if we ask. I know understand that the Universe sends messages to us, and the right people hear them.

Have you ever noticed that you might have an idea simmering in your head, and then somehow another person (or more) will release something very similar. A book, a video, a Facebook Live will appear, on the exact thing you have been thinking about. Energy. The vibe in the world. We hear it, we speak it.

And so, there it is. The answer on why this place is called I AM. My mission in life. And my recent understanding and acceptance of “what is”. I harbour no grudge against those who have hurt me in the past, both personally and professionally.

I am here. I am showing up. I am trying to make a difference in one life today.

What about you? What’s your big picture stuff? What are  the things you feel guided to do today?

 

 

New Year, Same Old Bullshit?

Happy New Year!

Here we are – one week into 2017 – how are your New Year’s Resolution’s going? LOL – If you’re anything like me, you may have had to make a “little alteration” to them already.

It isn’t that I am quitting, it isn’t that mine were too rigid, or too difficult – it is because this year is the first year I realised that I actually don’t like feeling dictated to by my Jan 01st “rules”.

i decided that 2017 will be the year that I heal, that I grow in strength, succeed in business and win at life. But, with feeling, with emotion. This year my heart will run my head for a change.

“What?” I hear you say. “how do you become a badass, healthy, wealthy bitch with emotion? Is that even possible?”

Well, I am hoping it is.

What I want this year to be at peace within. No more beating myself up because I missed a deadline, or heard about an opportunity too late. No more having my whole social media schedule planned months in advance. No more worrying about money in vs money out. Nope. This year I am going with how I feel on the day.

Am I gonna make it up as I go along? Yep.

Will this work out? Who bloody knows.

All I know is that, I have trust in synchronicity, I have faith that the Universe will provide me with exactly what i need and want to live a happy life. Every morning when I awake, my first thought will be, How do I Want to Feel today? And, I’ll go with that.

At every point in my life to date, i have been supported and loved by the Universe I live in, everything I have asked for, I have been given, both positive and negative ( took me years to work out that I was actually drawing the crap toward me), and I have no reason to believe that it will ever stop.

Am I mad? Possibly,

Am I kinda going against the grain of strong business models here? Yep.

Why? Dunno.

Is this gonna be year year of living dangerously? Hmm, good question.

All I know is that this year already feels different. I have been drawn to create Theme Days for the first time ever in the I AM Jaki Mac Group – I have been drawing the most amazing synchronicity to me since I arrived on Maggie, I feel totally supported and drawn to doing things differently this year. I am meeting people that think like me, that work in similar outlets to me, that have the knowledge that I might need. Like that old adage “when the student is ready, the teacher appears”.

This year is the year of being aware. Of Trust. Of using my intuition. Of being open to change.  Do you feel the same?

I know in numerology, this year is a One Year, meaning it is a year of new beginnings, and I do find myself wondering if this has anything to do with it. Are you experiencing feelings like this? Or a whole new thought pattern away from your “norm”? I’d love to hear about it.

So, this year will be interesting – I’ll let you know how it all goes on December 31.

Wish me luck.

Here’s hoping that your 2017 is a year of growth, of love and of plenty.

Big love. JQ

fortes Fortuna iuvat – Fortune favours the brave

I’ve been missing – again – lost amidst the emotional whirlwind of weddings, and honeymooning, and missing my family – and a shower that I know how to use. You know, that void between the mundane familiarity of life at home, and the borderline uncomfortable excitement of discovering new things. I’m stuck in that vortex. Having a great time, but longing at times for a simple life in my own home.

So here I am today, holed up in the lobby of a beautiful old hotel in the Amalfi Coast of Italy, surrounded by italian voices and the smells of fresh ground coffee and Mama baking croissants – because it is raining and we are afforded the luxury of being able to just stop. And watch the world go by for a while.

The beauty of this down time has allowed me time to reflect back on the past few weeks – the past few months – and the whole of 2016… and how quickly it has passed me by, having had a wedding to organise, a BnB to prepare for the whole event, and a honeymoon to plan and book.

I look back today and feel like i haven’t achieved much – the year is all but over and what do I have to show for it? I feel like I had it all together this year, I started with such passion and commitment, we got engaged unexpectedly – and off I went on a tangent, so far removed from my 2016 game plan, it has left me feeling a bit lost, a little off track, to be honest.

II have just compared my 2016 TO DO List, with my current reality…A husband, a grandbaby, a wedding ring, one book of my three planned books published, more fabulous travel memories, and an Iphone full of photos.

Life experiences. Who was it that said that life is what happens while we are busy making other plans?  John Lennon, maybe?

He was right.

2016 is not over – I will return to Australia very soon, relaxed, rejuvenated, and without a current project to distract my mind from my goals. Still to do this year is publish another 2 books, and another one in hard cover, and I still have almost three months to do it.

I know there are some of you who are feeling the same, feeling like you’ve somehow settled for mediocre this year, taken the safe route, allowed the fear to stop the progress.

October is a great time to take back control. Who says that business and life plans must be set in January and July?

I say lets start over in October – lets smash the rest of our 2016 plans – 90 days to getting your life back on track with a bang, with a passion not seen yet this year. With determination and creativity.

“Fortes Fortuna Iuvat” – Fortune Favours the Brave.

We are Brave, you and me – brave, strong and completely able to complete this year with pride, if with no other way than #togetherwerise.

Time starts now. I can, and I will, as a wise woman once told me. 🙂

 

 

happiness vs wholeness

Since seeing the Hugh Mackay quote appear in my newsfeed recently, I’ve been giving this a great deal of thought, do I want to be happy, or do I want to be whole?

Hmm, big question.

Happiness to me is being healthy, having healthy kids, a loving relationship, personal safety, freedom and no worries about financial stability. Happiness to another may be travelling the world with nothing but one pair of knickers and a spare set of thongs. Who am I to judge? We are all different and our past experiences have moulded our thinking accordingly.

There will be people that read this and ask why on earth would I list personal safety, in a country like Australia? These would also possibly be the people lucky enough to live in a house without domestic violence, without having ever experienced the walking on eggshells, the listening for any verbal trigger, being on constant alert for non-verbal signs, total awareness of the nearest exit.

Yes, for me personal safety is a large component of my “what makes me happy” list.

Yet, unless i had lived through that terror, i wouldn’t understand how wonderful it is to be safe, how incredibly empowering it is to be able to make a purchase without having permission, or how great it is to be in charge of my own spare time.

Without sadness, there can be no happiness, because there is no measure. Without danger, there is no safety, without incarceration, there is no freedom.

Living through the hard times, brings power and strength to our soul, builds resilience and lifts the spirit to know that this alone will not break us. This is part of becoming whole, experiencing a range of emotion from sadness, fear to compassion and onwards to states of bliss.

Are we less when we are sad? Are the days spent under a blanket hiding from the world, less important than the days we dance and sing with abandon?

I don’t believe so.

My thoughts around the issue are this – we are given days on earth to create our lives, and to experience all we can with the days we have. By allowing ourselves to feel pain, hurt, sadness, grief, we allow ourselves to become whole. To feel real. To experience life’s emotional spectrum, without regret or fear, just as you would share your triumphs, your joys and your moments of great fulfillment.

There have been days when I have blogged about hiding in a blankie fort, and those posts so often become widely read, many people sharing and commenting as they understand that same bleak feeling. I’ve also found that by allowing myself the opportunity to pull the covers over my head and block out the world for the day, gives me time to process that emotion. I don’t ‘soldier on’, I allow it to wash over, feeling into the physical ache that sadness often brings along for the ride.

I also make a point of not packing up to live in this state – I don’t become my sadness, i experience it – and let it move on, move away before being replaced with another. Every day brings a new challenges to our emotional equilibrium. Just as a positive person can not always expect to be happy, a negative person can expect moments of happiness thrown in with their pre-conditioned outlook on life.

Life is not all happiness – hard to believe if you use social media as a yardstick – but I too, am guilty of posting upbeat things about my life, more so because I believe there is enough sadness in the world already. But life is also not all sadness, even people with clinical depression can have a great day, it’s the allowing of emotion without being afraid that’s important. Are we frightened to feel sadness, in case we fall into a pit of “depression”? Are we so caught up in the keeping up with the neighbours, that we are ashamed to admit we are anxious, instead living a veiled life of fabulous on the outside?

Who knows? All I know is that I want to be real. I want to eat real food, sit in the real sunlight, express real and sometimes raw emotion and live my life honestly. I want to love the people around me and send love to the ones who I know aren’t in my corner.

I want to feel my life. I want to sense the excitement of travelling to new places, and smell the scent of new beginnings, I want to hear the words in a tongue I do not understand, and I want to see life through wide eyes of compassion. And I want to laugh, get lost, and find myself in the process.

I guess what i would hope for is a life lived well, lived by helping people, lived by experiencing new things, having deep connection to family and friends, by being  morally courageous, sharing the gift we have been given, standing up for your beliefs and by caring for your fellow man.

To be that, is what would make me feel whole, and that also is what would make me happy. To know I have lived a life well, and left a legacy of love behind me. To have lived my life simply BEING, sharing, caring, loving.

So, Wholeness or happiness? I am still deciding, as each day brings more opportunity to ponder – but until I do, I’ll probably keep striving for both. 🙂