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You Matter

Today, I have received LOUD and CLEAR, a message for someone in this group.

I need to tell you that you matter.

That your life matters. That even though you feel inconsequential sometimes, the work you do, the people you love and the world that surrounds you, need you.

YOU MATTER.

You matter to me. I love seeing your reactions to my posts on Facebook. I love your comments and your shares and your thumbs up.

You matter to your dog. He loves it when you get out of your car in the afternoons and give him that pat he has longed for all day.

You matter to the people that you help. Don’t think your compassion and volunteer work means nothing, it means a lot. You may not see the gratitude, but it is there.

YOU MATTER.

Sometimes, in a world that is social media driven, it is hard to not compare your life with others. Some people are skipping about the world and there you are, apron on, doing the washing up and wondering where your life took the wrong turn.

The thing is, it didn’t.

You are exactly where you should be. You are learning in this lifetime, lessons that you needed to. Yep, even in the mundane, there is a lesson. The trick is to find it.

I have no idea who needs this message today – but I know you are here and I know you will read this.

And in your heart, YOU will know, that you matter.

The Power of Mantras

Do you have a mantra that you live by?

A mantra can be described as a series of words that are spoken, either silently or aloud, to evoke powerful spiritual or physical change to oneself.

Years ago, when i first discovered Louise Hays and her positive teachings, I was a bit skeptical – but, having hit almost rock bottom at the time, I figured creating a mantra wasn’t ever going to hurt.

Far from hurting the situation, my mantra actually turned my life around.

And I mean – Totally.

From Homelessness to Happiness.

Having positive thoughts floating through my head all day had a profound impact on the way I viewed life in general. It impacted every area of my life. I look back now and see that it was akin to medicine for both my mind and soul.

Affirming these positive words into my thoughts multiple times a day, allowed these words to seep into my subconscious, brainwashing me if you will, into shifting my negative patterns and behaviours into positive ones.

I used mine “Thin, Healthy, Successful and Wealthy” as a kind of metronome, keeping pace with my steps as I walked each morning and evening.

Mantra’s set the mind to thinking of positive things, engaging it for good, rather than listening to the negative mind chatter that we often recite to ourselves at every opportunity. As wise Eckhardt Tolle once said, it is never the situation that hurts us, just our thoughts about that situation – or words to that effect, as I never have been good at remembering anything I read, exactly word for word.

Emile Coue, the great French psychologist used the power of what he called “auto suggestion” with all of his patients, having them repeat the words “everyday in every way I am getting better and better”, with incredible results. His suggestion is one I use often, myself.

He believed that any thought that occupied the mind, would bring that thought into reality. A little like “what you believe, you achieve” which, I think, came from Henry Ford.

Little does it matter who said what, in what year of our history, what matters most is what we then choose to create for our futures.

What are the words that you use to describe yourself, your day, your life? Are they positive?

If you really sat down and studied them, would they truly be bringing you exactly as you have asked?

Words have power, let there be no doubt of that, how you use yours is a choice you need to make carefully.

I would love to hear your thoughts around mantras – have they worked for you – when do you recite yours – and what are the words that hold the power for you?

Shift Happens

Have you felt the energy from the recent solar eclipse? Feeling kinda out of sorts but not sure why?

Solar eclipses create incredible changes to the energy patterns and levels of the Universe apparently, and a lot of people can pick up on this change.

I have been out of sorts most of the week – weird, off centred emotions, wishing I could just hide away, feeling like there is change coming but I am not sure I want anything to alter.

But this morning, I awoke re-energised. Feeling more centres, more alive, and weirdly more balanced. Like I am different, but I am also okay with that now. I feel almost cleansed of everything that has happened in the past, all the hurts I have had, all the hurts I have created – all that – gone. Lifted.

The energies have definitely shifted..

There is no limiting beliefs to hold on to anymore, those old wounds have healed and my focus is definitely forward… new energy, here I come.

I feel like the eclipse has cleared it all for us. It all feels fresh, and new, and higher vibe. Do you sense that as well?

I feel like we are all at a new beginning, a new start – one that will be super successful for us all if we choose to leave all the baggage behind.

We are all in a regeneration phase, it feels, one where we can start afresh, totally unencumbered by the past. We have ahead of us, opportunity, optimism, enthusiasm, if we so choose it.

The way forward is now clear, take all you have learned in the last 20 odd years and leap forward with confidence. The past does not dictate your future any more. No more using past hurts as an excuse to shield yourself from the future.

Step Up. Step Into Who You Really Were Meant To Be.

Practise more self care, gratitude, love every single bit of your skin, live with mindfulness and practise thoughtfulness and kindness every day.

It’s time to jump into all those things you’ve always wanted to do – get excited about life – learn more about whatever you’re interested in – it’s your time. NOW.

What will you do? What are the things that light you up? What makes you feel alive?

DO THAT!

 

 

Midlife Crisis – Who ME?

Funnily enough, when I was in my 20’s and 30’s, I would hear about people reaching midlife and having what we all called a “crisis” – where they would make a dramatic change to their world, buy a motorbike, get a new relationship, leave work, grow a beard, go on a road trip that never seemed to end… and I would be like, I do not understand how someone spend years living a life that they are desperately wanting to escape from..I just did not get it.
At all.

But, as I reached 40, then 50 I somehow woke up. Life had not always been kind to me, and after some super tough challenges, I had finally stumbled on a better life – and a weird theory on how to get everything I wanted.

Initially I asked to be able to find the funds to pay all of my bills, and that happened. I asked for a job that paid 20k more than I was earning, and I got that. I asked for 50k more, yep got that. Eventually I was receiving more than 200 000 a year, I had a phone, a car, a laptop, superannuation paid for every hour that I worked, every single thing I asked for, I received.

After a few years, it started to feel empty, hollow somehow. I was making huge headway into this career, yet it was important to me. Every day I would get up before the sun, travel an hour to work, to be bullied and emotionally battered by men who were old enough to know better. Old men unhappy with their lot in life, and mean to anyone wishing to make a change for the better.

One day I just decided that enough was enough. I took 5 weeks off and went to Paris. Upon my return, my position had been restructured and I was made redundant. I could not have been happier. Again, I had asked for help from the Universe and it had delivered it to me.
At the time I wanted a career where the people were pleasant, where they were receptive to change, where there was laughter and fun and co-operation. In the downturn, jobs were hard to find, so I created myself one. I started offering my experience as a business mentor and life coach for people in the throes of business start up.

And I loved it. It lit me up, helping people achieve their dreams and follow their passion to success was so empowering for me. This is the feeling I was looking for.

Around about this same time, I met a man, gentle, caring, compassionate. Someone intelligent and some who brought to the table a calming influence to the chaos that the kids and I called Family life.

Once again the universe delivered. I asked for a man who would never make me cry, who was kind hearted, generous of spirit and who would love my kids as their own. The Universe went all out on this delivery. This man is perfect, so perfect that I married him. And yes, he does look like George Clooney (if you squint a little, maybe after a glass of wine or two).

The point to that story is, that I too suffered a midlife crisis. A time in my life where I realised that where I was, was not where I wanted to stay – so I changed it.

I went from being a lonely, unsupported, overworked stress head, to a woman who was loved, cared for, supported and I had never been happier in my life. I worked with people that I loved, I was surrounded by happiness and life was wonderful.
180 degree’s polar opposite to what I had been living.

Because my kids were getting older and I was no longer needed in the same, day-to-day way, I found that I truly wanted a different life — a life that was mine — based on what I value and what I loved to do.

I didn’t want to just push down what wasn’t working. I wanted to bring it out and resolve it, or let it go. Do it, or ditch it. Now I get it — a “midlife crisis” isn’t a cliché. It’s real and it’s powerful, and almost everyone has these feelings.

I have since spoken to thousands of women, at my workshops, who’ve awakened in midlife to realizing that what they’ve created in their 20s and 30s just doesn’t fit who they’ve now become.

Midlife truly IS a time of major transition – over the years, I’ve observed that the following experiences contribute to our re-awakening in midlife and wanting change:
1) Time for re-evaluation — Realizing that your life is potentially more than half over is a jarring experience, and brings with it a sense of urgency to live more authentically and more joyfully. At 50, we just want different things than we did at 30. The death of a parent, or of close friends bring this feeling to light in dramatic fashion, and the feeling of it could be us next, starts to hit home.
2) Kids have bolted – leaving their parents at home, with time on their hands. There is more room to think, to ponder the possibilities of life, and even space to allow yourself to dream about a future that’s purely yours.
3) Longings begin to surface – Often we spend years working so hard to craft a “successful” life, and it is midlife when we start to get tired of the race to nowhere. Success starts to mean different things to us – Instead of some outward version of “success,” we long to pursue what gives us joy, excitement, passion, peace — we want to live life more fully, on our terms.
4) We have learned how to speak up – We won’t be talked down to anymore. We’ve lived through that, and we’ve learned how to stand up, speak up and power up. We won’t tolerate put-downs, manipulation or pressure like we used to. We have a voice and we are not afraid of using it.
5) Finally, after all we’ve strived for, accomplished, created and endured, you know what you’re capable of. You start to feel like you have earned this time for yourself. The feeling of not accepting anything less than what you deserve. You finally have the confidence and the courage to embrace the idea that you have been toying with for a very long time. You know that THIS cannot be all there is. You have a longing for more and you’re emotionally ready to help create it.

It seems to me now, that midlife is a natural, perfectly normal life progression that doesn’t have to represent chaos and anxiety, as I once presumed in my early years. If you’re in midlife and wondering why everything looks and feels different, don’t be alarmed. It’s normal. The key is to not resist the changes, embrace them with passion— walk directly into this new life.
Look deep into the chasms of your heart, mind, and soul to find clues of what your passion in, on who you want to become now, and what you want to build in this next supercharged chapter of life. It is time for the fun, for the laughter to come back into your life, time to live with ignited passions and reclaim your power – put away that superhero cape and learn to relax and enjoy yourself instead.

It’s a new time, inviting you to create a new, more expansive you. Do a declutter of your old life, remove any negative influences, change up your Social Media friends, remove any old junk or paperwork from around your home. It’s out with the old, in with the new time! Midlife really can pave the way to an exciting new life. It’s time to breakthrough, if you are brave enough to make the leap.

Why not me?

One of my recent conversations with a friend went something like this….”How come you get all the cool stuff, living on an island and stuff – why not me?”

“I dunno, have you ever asked to live on an island?” I said.

“well, no” she replied..

That’ll do it.

How do you ever expect to get what you ask for if you never ask?

Honestly, it is that simple.

The hardest part in making change is making the decision what you truly wish your life looked like.

My grass may look greener to some, but maybe I just water it.

What you want, wants you.

The trick is ridding yourself of all the blocks you might have that keep you from receiving.

What if all I ever did was ask and that was all it took to set the universal wheels in motion.

What is stopping you from asking? Hmmm, now there is some food for thought..

 

 

 

SHAG’ing is great for the soul…

Well, According to the book I read this morning….

I was feeling a little off this morning, nothing dramatic but just not quite right.

Because I have learned over the years to trust my internal compass, I sat down and asked myself, what it was that I needed to feel better. The answer was sunshine. I thought about it for a moment, and realised that with winter being here, there had been a few days pass since I had got my daily dose of that beautiful winter sun on my face, so off I went to the local marina cafe to read.

It is a book that attempts to outline the Law of Attraction in simple terms, and I had to laugh out loud when I got to the page entitled SHAG, Baby… It certainly got my attention..

SHAG, as it turns out stands for So Happy and Grateful. And the author Sean believes that the creation of one or two detailed lines, outlining your ambitions, written in present tense, beginning with the words “I am so happy and grateful now that…..” is extremely powerful in thrusting your mental image forward into the future, built of your dreams.

Carrying your SHAG statement around and reciting often throughout the day will encourage the seeds of possibility to commence sprouting. Training your mind of deliberately putting yourself in the picture of the future, envisioning yourself at every opportunity. Apparently SHAGing becomes easier with practise.. Who knew? 😉

So, my friends, I give you permission to SHAG morning and night, and more often if possible.

Get into a relaxed state and read out those lines, attract the fulfillment of your desire, visualise your heart’s desire…. and SHAG!

 

Who are you?

Who are you?

Really.

When no one is looking – who are you?

When there is no one to impress or follow or obey, who are you?

What are the things you stand for? What are the things that you are prepared to fight for?

What are the things that light you up? That make you laugh, that make you cry, that make you proud?

That make you, you?

Ever stopped to think about who you really are all that way inside?

When I got married I started thinking about who I really was now that I was no longer Jaki Mac – what were the adjectives that best described Jacqueline Quenault now? Strong, fit, healthy, happy, confident, successful, wealthy. Words like this keep me focussed, keep me on track to who I want to continue to become.

In my mind, Life is a never ending journey to self discovery, I love that every day I have a choice to take a step forward or a step back. A step closer to my adjectives, or a step back toward the safety of the cocoon of comfortable.

Do you use words or mantras to guide your path? Do you ever take time to look within and find yourself? who you really are?

I’d love to know who you discover.

You can’t be happy…

….if you are happy being sad.

“Hold on, wait a second, what do you mean I can’t be happy, if I am happy being sad?

What the heck does that mean? I am NOT happy being sad????”

Or are you?

Do you ever feel that you’re playing a role in life? That you are actually living according to others expectations, rather than how you truly feel?

No one, regardless of your situation, can be unhappy every single moment of every single day. Seriously, it isn’t possible.

Sometimes it isn’t even you that is making you unhappy – imagine living in a sea of negative voices, would you be floating or drowning in that kind of environment?

It is up to us to make ourselves happy – every day, we have a choice. We can wake and be grateful for the things around us, or we can piss and moan about how cold it is, how the birds are singing, how the sunlight wakes us up, or how the life partner you have chosen is still breathing.

Sometimes being unhappy becomes a habit. Some of you have been un happy for so many years, you’ve forgotten what makes you smile.

Today, find 5 minutes to do something that makes you smile – it might be pushing a child on a swing, running on the beach, reading, gardening, sewing, singing – it doesn’t have to cost any money, and it doesn’t have to take much time.

5 Minute Smiles – how can you not find the time for that? Unless, of course, you’re happy being sad.

 

 

 

You Owe It to YOURSELF

You owe it to yourself to live your best life. If you spend every day in a job you hate, with people who annoy you, and a commute which wastes half your day, you need to contemplate doing something different.

We are here on earth for a limited time – when did the rules change to say that we have to do shit that we hate the whole time we are here?

Some people go through the whole of their lives doing what is expected of them – by family, by their friends, by their school teachers and by their upbringing. They fear going against the current – they fear standing out, standing up for themselves. They fear rejection, failure, defeat. They lead lives they hate, for people that don’t have their best interests in mind.

Why?

Because to break free is not easy. Because it hurts. Because it gets uncomfortable. Because it is inconvenient. Because it is scary.

People who jump out of the box that they have spent years living in, will always come across resistance. “Whoa up there girl, you are not supposed to be successful – you’re a single mum, you have no job, jaysus, you even live in a tent!” My plans for you involve you staying right where you are, where I can keep an eye on you, control you through your inability to see the future as less fearful.

Sorry.

Being homeless is not in my long term plans. Being poor is also not in my future. Living from week to week, making biscuits and selling door to door is no longer in the equation either. I will succeed, regardless of my past situations, or circumstances. I come from a long line of successful people, and I will raise my children to be the same. My kids never knew we were homeless, they thought we were camping. They didn’t know I didn’t have the money to feed us all, they thought I was dieting.

Life is about perception. Imagination. Creativity.

We have inside us the genius, the kindness, the goodness and the capabilities to make our lives better.  We CAN choose to make our worlds a better place to be.

Yes we will hurt. Yes we may fail. Yes it will be difficult, but no more uncomfortable than continually playing small.

Yes, you will make enemies along the way – that’s life isn’t it? But imagine the people you can help, that can learn from your experiences, that you can empower with your story of success.

The only way to be truly living a life of freedom is to be unapologetically you. No longer governed by past habits, fear or other people’s opinion of who you should be.  Broken free of their low expectations of you.

Of course they will ridicule you, reject you, fear you – but in the end they will all want to be you. Rise up. Speak Your Words. Live YOUR best life.

Ask yourself, how can I help more people? How can telling my story empower people to rise, to make a stand, to make a difference?

Everyone has a story.

Even you.

What story are you telling yourself, and more importantly, what story are you showing your children?

Come join the movement – YOU CAN TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE FB Group – we are changing lives every single day. 🙂

 

Every Day in Every Way, I’m Getting Better and Better

Do you have a Mantra?

Mantra. Brainwashing. Same Same.

The way I see it, the words we speak, think, whisper to ourselves, create the life we lead, so we have to do our best to make sure it is positive.

What are some of your favourite sayings? Are they kind?

Years ago I used to chant the following, whenever I walked for exercise.. “thin and healthy, successful and wealthy”.. and sure enough, over time I achieved all of these.

I hit menopause, my hormones went haywire and I fell into the trap of “nothing is working” – sure enough, I gained 20 kilos effortlessly… Hmm, perhaps I should investigate this mind/body connection a little further.

I have always believed in what you declare, you can achieve and I have used this as a “rule for my life” – manifesting all kinds of goodness, but health?? Would the same principles work with a health related issue?

I read an article recently about the French Doctor, Emile Coue, who treated many of his patients with the same method.

He asked them to repeat over and over, “every day, in every way, I am getting better and better”.  According to the article, he is hailed as a Miracle Worker. He is attributed for curing so many people, of all kinds of ailments, his results are nothing short of amazing..

But, what if he didn’t cure them at all? What if the mantra he asked to be repeated is the actual power?

What if we have the ability to heal ourselves of all kinds of illnesses, using the power of Autosuggestion?

I , once again, have recently used myself as a guinea pig. Whispering this mantra, repeating it over and over again, as I walk, as I shower, as I did the washing up… Anytime I had the opportunity to reflect, I did, and still do.

Who would like to join me? Who is interested in taking the time to heal themselves, to use positive language in an attempt to allow their body and their mind to regain balance.

Dr Emile says that the action of imagination is more powerful than will. We possess within us a force of incalculable power, which when directed in a conscious and wise manner, gives us the mastery of self, and allows escape from physical and moral illness, and allows us to live in relative happiness, in whatever situations we find ourselves in. Click the link to download his book on Autosuggestion, it is an interesting read.

I know I feel much better. I know I feel less stressed at my health issues, I know I have lost bulk weight in a short space of time, I know that I can see myself with a gentle heart now, with love, and I feel more of a need to honour myself for the first time in my whole life.

I know, without a doubt that “every day, in every way, I am getting better and better”.

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